#MicroblogMonday – bulletin points

Today is a bulletin point sort of day…

– I think I spoke a bit too soon. I am now feeling slight allergy symptoms, but so far not bad enough to force me to take medication. I’m impressed.

– I hate ants. Actually, I would go so far as to say I might even have a phobia of them. I know I have reacted irrationally around/because of them at times. And yet, my boy plays with them. He willingly lets them walk on his hands. *shudder*

– As we were walking home this evening, he picked up a piece of asphalt. I asked him to put it down…and he goes on to tell me that he had a fine piece of asphalt.  And when I finally did get him to put it down, he put it next to the “daddy” piece of asphalt.

– This evening Paxlet asked me to sing him a song about a screwdriver that was stuck in the ground and an ant that was playing with the screwdriver. This isn’t his first request like this either. He usually asks Mr Siili all sorts of silly things.

– I couldn’t get over the feeling of loss of my mom yesterday. It put me in quite a sad and foul mood.

– I finished sewing a full set of the cloth letters. They turned out pretty cool, if I do say so myself.

– How can it be so difficult to pick out a name (first and middle) for such a little girl?! 5 weeks on and she still doesn’t have a name! We think we might have first name, but we can’t figure out a middle name that sounds good with it. I’m almost ready to choose a different first name, but we can’t even figure out any other names.

MicroblogMonday For more microposts, go visit Mel’s post at Stirrup Queens.

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Tadbit is 1 month old

Yesterday was one month since my Baby girl was born. Where has the time gone? Seriously! I vaguely remember the same happening with Paxlet during the first weeks/month. When Tadbit was born, we were still getting some snow flurries that would stick on the ground for a few hours and now when I look again, all the birch have tiny visible green leaves on them. It also doesn’t freeze at night anymore.

Tadbit still doesn’t have a name. I think about it constantly. We think we have a first name, but we can’t seem to find a second/middle name to go with it. And yes, we would like a second/middle name. I would be willing to go with a different first name, but we absolutely don’t have any other names in sight or mind. Ack! Thankfully we have one more month to figure out a name, but I’m stressing already.

I have found that as the days and weeks are going by, I am loving this little girl more. I know I loved her before she arrived and my heart swelled when she did arrive, but the feelings of love I had for her in the beginning just felt so different than what I remembered with Paxlet. I am thankful for the weekdays and Paxlet being at daycare, as that has given me time to just be with Tadbit and bond with her. I do feel a bit guilty still at times when I think of what we have “done” to him, but on the other hand I am happy that we have been able to give him a sibling. (It will be up to the both of them to like each other for their entire lives.) I love her.

This little girl is growing so much already before our eyes. I got the first real smiles a few days ago. Mr Siili got some the following day. Tadbit’s also definitely more aware of her surroundings. She’s looking around at things. I can see wonder and thought (as opposed to a blank stare) in her eyes when she’s awake and looking around. We’re also getting more coos and sounds from her. I love it as babies grow out of the larva stage and start getting some personality.

She’s growing physically too! Some of her newborn sized clothes already don’t fit! And I have some more that we’ll have to stop using very soon. Size 3 diapers are going to be a reality pretty soon.

From day one, Tadbit has been a good sleeper. Even better than Paxlet! She usually sleeps 3-4 hours at a time and then is awake 1-2 hours. This is marvelous at night, even if it still feels like I never get enough sleep. Yes, I know the whole saying of “sleeping when the baby sleeps”. I just never did it much when Paxlet was a baby and I don’t do it so often now. Once I’m awake, I’m awake and find it hard to get back into bed. Especially if I help Paxlet get ready in the morning for daycare.

I gave Tadbit a bath for first time on Sunday, at 4 weeks of age. She just laid in the bath with big eyes. No screams or struggles, so I think she liked it.

I have been using my Amazonas wrap quite a bit with Tadbit. It has been so easy to put her in it and wear her wherever I need to. She’s fussy at the store? Put her in the wrap. I need to get Paxlet from daycare? Put her in the wrap. She’s fussy in the evening (colic / witching hour) and nothing will quiet her? Put her in the wrap! It is taking my lower back a bit to get used to, but I love that I can wear her and she’ll fall asleep almost immediately. I do still have the Snugli that I used with Paxlet, but I don’t find it as comfortable as the wrap. I mean, I do like it and it is easy to put the baby in it, I just find the wrap is more adjustable and allows the weight to be a it more balanced. I wish I had bought the wrap earlier with Paxlet. I do use the stroller with her sometimes, but she doesn’t always settle in it. Plus, it is easier to be out and about with Paxlet with Tadbit in the wrap, most times.

On the flip side of using the wrap all the time, Tadbit will generally fall asleep and stay asleep if I lay her down or take her out of the wrap. Whereas Paxlet would wake up very quickly. Tadbit will even sleep in her box for part of the night already. Paxlet didn’t do that until quite some time later (months later?).

Life is different, yet the same. I’m still getting used to it all, but I think I’m pretty happy when I’m not so tired.

Tadbit’s two week update and thoughts on the doula

My goodness, my little girl is two weeks old already. I’m still figuring things out, but she’s a pretty easy baby. If I have to say, she might be even easier than Paxlet was at this point. She feeds like crazy for an hour or two and then sleeps 2-4 hours, day and night.

As I said, she eats well and does everything a baby should do well. Her weight is going up and I can tell she’s getting bigger already. Some of the newborn clothes that we big on her when we got home are now fitting. (How does that happen so fast?!) We’ve also moved up to size 2 diapers.

Life is getting a bit more settled and into a routine. At least as much as it can be with a newborn in the house. Paxlet has been going to daycare each weekday, sometimes willingly others not so much. While Paxlet is at daycare, it gives Mr Siili and I some time to sleep, rest and just be. During the weekends, Mr Siili and I sort of tag team it. One of us usually gets to sleep in a bit and the other can take a nap later if needed/wanted.

We still have not figured out a name for her. I’m sort of stressing over it. We had a name for Paxlet by two weeks…we still have no clue for this little girl. Thankfully we still have time: up to two months. The way things work for registering a name in Finland are still the same as they were when we named Paxlet. And my list of rules is pretty much the same as it was then, even if I have updated it a bit. We’ve been using the name search function on the Population Register Centre website to see how popular a name is and if/when a name has ever been popular in Finland.
For example, if we use my name in the search, you can see that there has been less than 102 people registered in Finland with this name. Less than 10 males in total and less than 92 females in total. On the other hand, if you were to search Emma or Olivia, you’d get much higher numbers as those names are very popular in recent years.

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My dad says they are calling her Bunny, because she was born on Easter, just like him all those years ago.

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Looking back, it was nice to have a doula. We only met twice before Tadbit was born, the morning/day of delivery and we should meet at least once more in the next week or so. I really enjoyed talking things out with her about Paxlet’s delivery and what I hoped for Tadbit’s delivery. During delivery, she got me water, gave me a hairband (from her own hair!), tried to remind me to breathe and lower my tone of noise and after she took pictures. However. as both births were quite similar, in duration and events, I sort of feel like there really wasn’t much for her to do. Yes, it was nice to know that if Mr Siili couldn’t have made it, for one reason or another, she would have been there. And if something had gone different or taken longer, she would have been there for me. I am still glad I reached out and got a response.

The same sort of went for Mr Siili too. There wasn’t all that much for him to do at the hospital. He did drive me there! However, I did tell him which route to take and where to make turns.) He also held my hand when I held it out to him, talked to me when I said or asked something and got me some water too. He also went to rescue Paxlet after the birth.

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I say rescue Paxlet in a loose and not so urgent way. My friend who took care of Paxlet for us did a great job and he was safe the entire time. She took him to a reptile show (lots of dead-stuffed animals), bought him a stuffed toy crocodile, fed him lots of chocolate Easter eggs and ice cream. She didn’t feed him lunch and Mr Siili wasn’t able to get him lunch until around 2pm (way past normal time). The whole day’s events also resulted in a failed attempt at a nap. Paxlet was beyond hyper and out of control. He truly couldn’t control himself physically or mentally. But Paxlet did fall asleep promptly at bed time. With a few sniffles from missing me.

39 weeks + 1 day, #2

I don’t see any impending signs of Tadbit making an appearance in the next few days. Sure, I’m more achy than previously, but what do you expect one week six days before the EDD? I truly wouldn’t mind Tadbit coming any time now. Although, I have a feeling she too will be a week-ish “late”. I finally (yesterday) packed everyone’s bags: mine (sans Crocs that need to be washed), Paxlet’s (in case he will go elsewhere) and Tadbit’s (coming home clothes). The only requirement I have of Tadbit is that she doesn’t arrive on the 29th of March or 1st of April. The first date is because that is when my stepmom thinks she’ll arrive: mid-way point between my dad and mom’s birthdays. And second, I don’t want an April Fool’s day baby.

Paxlet's art work. He made a couple of cards with these stickers too.

Paxlet’s art work. He made a couple of cards with these stickers too.

My next neuvola appointment is Monday.

I have (new) stretch marks! They aren’t so many and they are on the lower part of my bump, so I didn’t notice them until I really looked in the mirror the other day. The stretch marks aren’t huge and I almost didn’t realize what they were at first. But they are there now. I think they will fade somewhat quickly after I give birth, but if they don’t, I’m not worried about it. I’m actually sort of happy/excited about them. Battle wounds, you know!

Sleep has been harder to come by this week. I’m either waking up to pee, (although some nights aren’t too bad), Mr Siili’s snoring wakes me, Mr Siili wakes me because I am snoring, Paxlet wakes me up, I have a weird dream, I’m aching in my hips, have a headache or I wake just because. I haven’t been taking naps during the day either, it just isn’t my thing.
I tried Paxlet without a diaper at night (Sun-Mon) again this week and he massively peed at midnight. This event required a quick shower for Paxlet and full on bed change. It shattered me, physically and mentally. I was exhausted still when he woke at 6am. That was also the start of my hips really hurting this week and pregnancy.

Last night Mr Siili and I got a great show of Tadbit moving around. It was quite painful for me and a bit freaky for Mr Siili. Very alien-like. Tadbit really does wait until the evening when I am sitting and resting to make her big and painful movements. As nice as it is that I know she is doing well in there, I’m not sure I’ll miss these moments.

Why can’t my food desires ever be healthy? Ben & Jerry’s ice cream was on sale this week. Mr Siili and I bought 6 containers. One has been eaten already. Hey, we shared it! I may not have eaten it all, but I sure got the lion’s share of it. *not so sheepish grin*

Symptoms: My skin, especially that of my tummy has gotten quite dry and itchy if I don’t put lotion on it after a shower/swimming. In addition, my tummy skin is sensitive to anything touching it. I don’t want to be touched on my naked bump!

Last Friday bump down  on 24th (38+6)?
Last Friday the midwife thought my bump was a bit lower, but I wasn’t so sure. She also said baby’s head is a bit engaged. Then on Tuesday (38+5) as I was sitting in the swimming hall sauna, I thought bump was lower because it didn’t fee as if my boobs were resting on my bump anymore. Plus, I don’t think I got as winded while swimming, but that could have been me going slower than normal. I just happened to take a picture a few days earlier, but now that I’ve put the two pictures next to each other, I think I’m imagining things. Anyone else see a difference or is it just me?
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This week I started getting pain down the inside of my right thigh. Sometimes it is a dull ache and other times it is a shooting pain. I’ve had to stop walking a few times because of it.

Wet burps are gross. Thankfully I don’t get them that often, but still: gross.

I miss being able to walk normally, bending over to towel dry myself off, sleeping a bit more comfortably and other mundane things like that.

The doula and I were supposed to meet on Wednesday, but that has been changed to tomorow. I look forward to going over alternative and natural pain relief methods.

I think my moods have been quite normal, but I am sure Mr Siili would say something else. He is always of a different opinion than I am on my moods.

Milestones: Eeks, 6 more days until EDD. Less than 3 weeks of pregnancy, at most!

Misc: Today I took the bus downtown and walked around a store for 2 hours. Mr Siili and I had sex for the 2nd time this year. I washed two loads of laundry. Swept upstairs (instead of vacuuming). All of these were done with the hope of trying to get things moving along. Hahah

I took Paxlet swimming this week. He loved it! While it was fun, I won’t be doing that again until baby is here.

Mr Siili and I finally discussed baby names. Rather, I told him the list of names I have been gathering, he made fun of some, we discussed some and then he couldn’t remember any he had supposedly thought of at some point. I’m not too worried yet about a name, as I know he wants to see the baby before committing to a name. It was the same with Paxlet, but this time I know more what to expect. It would be nice to have a couple of names that we both at least like.

#MicroblogMonday – Names

In Finnish, there are two names for “uncle”, depending on which side of the family the uncle is from.
Eno = mother’s brother.
Setä = father’s brother.

Aunts on the other hand only have one word: täti.

Setä and täti are also used as a general name for an unknown male or female person when talking about someone to your kid. Such as some man/lady in the store. Paxlet, watch where you are walking so that you don’t bump into that lady/täti.

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Names have been on my mind a lot lately. Tadbit doesn’t have a proper name yet and most likely won’t until a few weeks after she is born, if it goes anything like with Paxlet. I have a few requirements that I require of a name:
1. The name can’t start with a J. The Finnish J sounds like an English Y. Example Jennifer=Yennifer or Jenny=Yenny.
2. I do not want my girl child name Marja. It is a very nice name and I know several ladies with that name, but I would always think “Berry”. Also see #3.
3. No M-names. There are too many M-names in my family already and I mix them up all the time! Even with people whose name doesn’t start with an name.
4. Preferably the name won’t start with an S. Our boy’s name starts with an S and so does our last name. Plus, I have cousins (who are siblings) with names starting with the same letter and I always found that a bit strange… However, there are several girl S-names that I do like.
5. The name needs to be easily said/written in Finnish and English.

So, the question is, what are we going to name our little girl?!

MicroblogMonday For more microposts, go visit Mel’s post at Stirrup Queens.

Bits and bobs

I been gathering this post all week. It seems like my blogging thoughts are in random little pieces these days. I’m sure I could find something long and worthy to write, but I just can’t be bothered. Here are my thoughts as they are.

Earlier this week, Paxlet said “olet tuhma” (according to Mr Siili) and I thought Paxlet had said “tyhmä”.

tyhmä a stupid, unintelligent, foolish, soft-headed, brainless, dopey, obtuse, fool (yl am), daft (br), dim-witted, dozy (br), drippy, dumb (henkilöstä), gormless (br) Onpa tyhmä kysymys What a stupid question

tuhma a 1 naughty 2 bad (worse, worst) 3 rude, wicked tuhma vitsi a rude joke ■ a 4 (rivo) naughty, rude

As you can see neither word is very nice. And calling someone stupid just raises my hackles. I learned and experienced early on in my Finnish life that kids often call their parents, friends and just about anyone that displeases them “tyhmä”. And it irritates me to no end. I’ve tried explaining it to other Finns that calling someone stupid is fighting words. You don’t say that unless you really mean it. Does anyone else feel this way or am I a lone American on this feeling?

The next morning, Paxlet called his overalls “tuhma”. And then in the next sentence he said to me “Olet ruohon leikkuri” aka “You are a grass cutter” aka “lawnmower”. Now, at first I just laughed. But as I got to think about it during the day, he loves machines and he does like the lawnmower, so he must really like me. 😀 I know he likes me because he has told me so. He has also told me “Paxlet happy boy” and “Paxlet momma boy”.

Many of the buses, their routes and numbers changed at the beginning of the summer. The bus I take most regularly was #22, now #9. The other thing that changed was that once an hour, the bus actually comes past my house to its end spot and then turns around. All other times, it is a 7-8 minute walk to the closest stop. I love having a bus stop in front of my house, plus it works well for going to and coming home from work. However, since these stops are new(ish), many of the bus drivers still haven’t figured out where to stop or how to use the end turn-around. I’ve had to walk around the bus to get into (instead of stepping up into the bus from the curb) it a few times. And we’ve even had the bus driver go past our stop! Not that it is such a big deal, as it is only a 2-3 minute walk home from the end, but hey! the driver missed our stop, right in front of our house! After this last incident, I happened to take the same bus from the same driver the very next day and he recognized me. He even called out to me as I got off the bus saying as how our stops now have their official signs!

Living in a newly developed and developing area, there is still lots of construction going on. Across the street from us used to be a forest. Now most of the trees are cut down and the land leveled. The cool part is that we have 4 diggers across street from us. It is a young boys’ (and girls’) dream come true! They get to watch diggers, dump trucks and other big vehicles, come and go and work. We’ve spent quite a bit of time watching them this last year.

We’re planning on visiting my family in the US later this year. The tickets are expensive and the trip long. However, Mr Siili’s sleuth and research skills look like they have paid off and we’ll hopefully be getting a good deal on both. Well under 3k€ round trip and only about 24 hours of total travel time, each way.
I am looking forward to buying things from the US! And seeing family too. I need some more toothpaste, deodorant, underwear, some maternity clothes (much cheaper than here), candy (different than Finland) and other random things I think of while there.
My family doesn’t say Paxlet’s (real) name quite correctly. I know that I/we chose Paxlet’s name what it is so that it would be easily said and mostly correct the world over. But, I would have also hoped that my family would try to say it the way it is meant to be said: with an a (father) and not an ä (cat). I wonder if it will change when we are there and they will hear it more often from us.

Paxlet speaks more Finnish than English, but he understands both languages without a problem. Some things/phrases he says in English and when he spend more time with me, he will use a bit more English, but still the majority of his words are in Finnish. However, he does spit out gems like the following. I was putting my foot in the door way so he couldn’t slam close the door. He said: Momma foot way. Äiti väistä jalka. (Momma move foot.)

And last, but not least, I am halfway done with Written In My Own Heart’s Blood, book 8 of the Outlander series. I know I will feel lost for a bit after finishing it. Thankfully I have the TV series I can watch and re-watch if I have serious enough with drawls.

It has been done

We have finally stated Paxlet’s name* publicly. I am glad to be able to call him by his name and not Paxlet and BabyBoy, although I think I’ll still call him BabyBoy for some time, as that is what he is: my baby boy.

We finished cleaning, cooking and getting the house ready in the morning. Mid-day, Mr Siili and I took Paxlet for a walk. Just as we crossed the street to start our walk, I fell down. I have no idea what happened. One second I was walking and pushing the stroller, the next I was on all fours in the gravel. Because it happened to quickly, I even took the stroller down with me, but thankfully Paxlet was snuggled up in the stroller and was only scooted down to the bottom half of it. Me on the other hand, I’m quite sore today. I bruised both knees, scraped up the left knee, have a bruise on my left arm and the outer edge of my right foot hurts quite badly and is half bruised. After a bit of rest, cold and putting my foot up (but not nearly enough) yesterday, it is feeling a bit better today. I’m still walking slowly and carefully and limping. Doh!

When Mr Siili’s family arrived, we chatted, ate, told the name and then had dessert and chatted some more. Everyone seemed to like the name. At least no one openly spoke against it.

Flowers from Mr Siili’s parents.

A few hours later, I Skyped with my family and told them the name also. My sister and aunt liked the name. My dad didn’t say much and my stepmom just got the spelling correct and left the room without having said much. It seems I’ve pissed her off again. I have no idea if it has to do with the whole naming ceremony (and it not going as she has tried to plan it) or if she is upset that Paxlet and I are not traveling to the US for a week in the next couple of months. Although, that’s another post in and of itself.

After sharing Paxlet’s name with friends (on FB), I have learned that two friends have also given their son the same middle name as our boy. Doh! I had no idea! AND I found out my good friend R’s husband’s brothers first and second name are exactly the same. I knew about the first name, but not the second. I guess we’ve got good names, eh?

*As I said earlier, I don’t feel comfortable revealing our boy’s name here on my blog. I will continue to refer to him as Paxlet, but if someone would like to learn his name, I’d be willing to share it with you privately.
Shoot me an email at jsththr at gmail dot com.