#MicroblogMonday – 366* days tomorrow

My baby girl turns one year old tomorrow. I don’t know where the time has gone. I know that is as old as time and as cliche as can be, but I have found that when kids are involved, it is true. Time just flies! She’s definitely not a baby anymore, but she will always be my baby.

*It’s a leap year!

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#MicroblogMonday – In the blink of an eye

While the 8 weeks at home with both kids felt like forever when I think of it in terms of Paxlet (sometimes). I feel like I barely remember any of the things having to do with Tadbit. She was 2 months old at the beginning of the summer “holiday” and 4 months when it was over. When did Tadbit stop being a baby baby and become a big baby?

I’m feeling a bit…sad. This is definitely the last time I will be experiencing any baby things with my own kids and it feels like they are slipping through my fingers too fast. And I know this time goes quickly, yet it is still happening!

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Bye Bye digger

I took some sugar cookies to Paxlet’s daycare on Monday. The daycare lady asked me if I like baking cakes and would I want to bake a täytekakku (filled cream cake, very traditional Finnish cake) for her son’s birthday this weekend. She said she’d pay for the ingredients and my time. I took her up on the offer. Now I need to decide on the filling for the cake. During the summer fresh strawberries are used a lot of the time. But since it isn’t summer, I was thinking of using something else, just no banana. A friend on FB suggested peach and raspberries. I think I like that, as the colors are pretty and peach slices would look lovely on top.
Any more suggestions?
Test run for xmas gift cookies. They turned out yummy and fun!

Test run for xmas gift cookies. They turned out yummy and fun!

Paxlet and I have been on a mission to find a digger (or two) after daycare this week. The digger that has been working across the street from our house for some time drove down the sidewalk one morning (Monday? Friday? It feels forever ago.) to not return. Hence the reason we’ve been out looking for one.
Where's the digger? This is where it is supposed to be! Paxlet looks so forlorn in this picture.

Where’s the digger? This is where it is supposed to be!
Paxlet looks so forlorn in this picture.

And find them we did! Monday we found a parked digger (the one that drove away) and Paxlet started pointing at it and saying “diiii, diiii”. He was so happy to find it. And then yesterday after daycare, he heard a digger before he even saw it! So we had to go check it out. We walked closer to where the guy was working and Paxlet watched it very intently, grinning at times and again pointing and saying “diiii”. The guy even waved (back) at us! As we were leaving to go home, I told Paxlet to say “bye bye” to the digger and he waved and said “baa” over and over and over. (He hasn’t stopped saying “bye” since.) Today, we went and found both of those diggers again. And then as we drove to the store to pick up my new glasses, Paxlet “found” another digger working at the side of the street while I was at a red light. Paxlet is a great digger spotter. So if anyone needs a digger-spotter…just saying.I spy a digger!

I spy a digger!

Bye Bye Digger!

Bye Bye Digger!

Speaking of new glasses, wowzers! The world looks like it is in 3D and full of beautiful colors! These glasses were definitely needed. These weren’t a want purchase, but a seriously needed one. My previous pair of glasses were 3-4 years old and something was very wrong with the coating on the lens, like an absence of it. You know something isn’t right when the world looks clearer, brighter and more technicolor when you are wearing your older (back up pair) of glasses. My SIL, who is an optician, was amazed I could see anything at all with my old glasses.

It’s going to take some time to get used to these new glasses. They don’t have nose pads like all my other glasses have had, except for my very first pair when I was 14. And those were hideously huge. They’re cute, dark purple (almost black if not in the right light) and only cost me 59€!
That's the best you're going to get after 9pm. :D

That’s the best you’re going to get after 9pm. 😀

I got a text message today that a friend of mine had her baby yesterday! I am so happy for her. She started TTC around the same time Mr Siili and I did, but only started treatments (IVF) in January of this year. The first round worked! I am so glad I shared my TTC difficulties and was able to guide her to get the help she needed. She was the first pregnancy announcement that my heart truly and 100% soared when I heard about it. There was no pang of jealousy or other negativity. I was truly happy for her.

There have also been two other friends who have had their babies within the last week. And another one due in January. And two more women in my building association that are obviously pregnant, with a 3rd who gave birth a month ago or so. Pregnancy is definitely in my face right and on my mind again. I would love to get pregnant again and have a second child, but I’m very doubtful it will happen on its own and I just don’t believe the lonely frozen embryo will amount to anything. It took a lot of attempts and even more embryos just to get Paxlet. How can one little frozen embryo mean a viable pregnancy with a take home baby?
Just a random cute cat picture to separate two subjects.

Just a random cute cat (Rusty) picture to separate two subjects.

Work is less stressful at the moment. Busy, but not nearly as stressful. I know December is going to go by very quickly and then I’ll be moving to my new team some time at the beginning of the year. I can feel short-timer’s “disease” coming on soon.

beating loneliness with mom & baby groups

Sitting at home day in and day out with my lovely little boy is not something I can do. I’d go cabin fever crazy! I NEED to interact with other people, especially those who can actually talk. During the first 2 months of Paxlet’s life, I was content with making trips to the store, meeting a friend or co-worker for lunch downtown and on the rare occasion, hooking up with a friend to hang out, Paxlet always in tow. But I still needed a bit more than that.

Close to Paxlet’s 2 month birthday, neuvola scheduled a group neuvola meeting where the moms who had approximately 2 month old babies got to meet up. I mentioned this event back when it happened and I’m still of the same opinion of it: not much will come out of it in terms of meeting other moms that might become friends to hang out with. As such, I’ve taken matters into my own hands.

Paxlet and I started testing out different mom & baby clubs/groups this last month. There are many places and organizations that offer weekly events for moms to attend with their babies, toddlers and young kids (under school age). Each of these places are slightly different from each other, but generally with the same idea. So far, we’ve tried out a few of these groups. We’ve been to some at the Mannerheimin Lastensuojeluliiton (MLL) (Mannerheim Children’s Protective Services), the local Lutheran churches, from the city and an international group (privately run, but open to anyone). If Paxlet and I want, there are enough groups happening during the week (Monday through Thursday) that we can go to a different group each day, sometimes more than one each day, if we want.

There are two MLL groups we have gone to so far and one more that I am thinking of checking out. The first MLL group is for moms and babies under 1 year old. It lasts for 2 hours, but you don’t have to stay the entire time. I like this group quite a bit for the main fact that all the kids are under a year. It is also quite nice to be with other moms who are on their first kid; the same situation as me. The second group I tried out just this past week for the first time and I’m not too sold on it. It is closer to home, but it is for kids of all ages and not very organized. Also, there is no sort of program, so everyone just runs around as they wish. Not that that is bad, but it is a bit crazy.

We’ve been to two different church groups, one a 5 minute walk from our home and the other a 45 minute walk (although, we go there by bus). The church groups are more meant for slightly older kids, but everyone is welcome. These groups are quite organized with an opening prayer, a couple of songs/hymns, a biblical story and then one more prayer before the older kids run off to get some juice and cookies. Then the kids either have a craft to do, especially if there is a holiday or event coming up, or they can play. During snack and play time, the adults (mostly moms, a couple of dads, grandmas and nannies) get a snack of their own and a chance to talk. Then the last 15 minutes, of the hour and a half, is spent with everyone together again singing and acting out some songs. I like these groups decently well, even with the churchy stuff.

The international group is the only one where I speak English, as some of the mom’s are from other countries (and might now speak Finnish) or their partner is from another country. I like this group, because I can speak English, but there is no program whatsoever and some of the kids are a bit unruly, not to mention LOUD.

Now that we’ve tried some of the groups, I thinking of which ones I would like us to go to regularly. I also hope that by attending some of these groups a bit more, I will find a couple of moms who would like to meet outside of the groups for some play dates. I just worry that many of the moms will shy away from me because of my less than native Finnish speaking skills, even if I do speak and understand the language quite well. In any case, these groups are definitely helping to get us out of the house, give me some adult conversation and beat loneliness.